Tuesday, April 02, 2013

B is for Blur . . .


"Blur"

You could not see his face
for you met on the internet.
His words drew you in,
until you were nearly lost in love,
words tumbling between you.
He lived somewhere
between London and Norway;
He searched for someone exactly like you,
offering love, marriage, a new life together.
I broke the bond.
An internet search brought
multiple photos, different names, and
the same fractured syntax, with stories
of other women like you:
One waited at the airport with her three children
for a lover who never arrived; another mortgaged her home.
You are safe for the moment.
Even face-to-face, we do not know each other.
We are but a blur in the cosmos,
vulnerable to our half-articulated hopes and dreams.
We say there are no easy answers, no easy
connections, but one day, you may yet find
that companion of your heart.

Older, newly widowed women who use the internet are particularly vulnerable to such scams. This happened to someone dear to me. If you have any doubts about someone you meet on line, do a key word search on Google, phrases, names, even photos. Check out this background article on Wikipedia which suggests a predictable pattern of establishing trust, 'grooming' the mark, and asking for money. If you are drawn into an online friendship and are asked for money, follow that old truism, "Trust but verify."  Consider checking names, photos, or text on romancescam.com

Today's poem falls under the umbrella of the 'A-Z Challenge' and NaPoWriMo -- to write a poem a day in April, National Poetry Month.


European Bee-eaters (Wikipedia)
Note the female in the front who waits for the male's offering.
To read what others have written:
NaPoWriMo at http://www.napowrimo.net/participants-sites/
A-Z Challenge at http://www.a-to-zchallenge.com/p/2012-to-z-challenge-sign-up-list.html
A Round of Words in 80 Days at http://aroundofwordsin80days.wordpress.com/

10 comments:

  1. Wise words and a lovely poem.

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  2. Well done, Beth. Your poetry makes us think. xoA

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  3. I recently saw a story on the news about a dating scam. The poor woman was devastated emotionally and financially. So sad!

    Good luck with both challenges!
    Jenny at Choice City Native

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  4. It is sad that women have to worry about this as they get older. Thank you for sharing this. It pulled me in and through.

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  5. Great job covering both A-Z and Nano.

    Loneliness can be dangerous. :)

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  6. Such beautiful words and thank you for sending the message of vulnerability out there. It makes me sad that there are men out there (and women I'm guessing) that prey on the loneliness of others.

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  7. That had equal parts compassion and reality check. Nicely done.

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  8. What a great way to call attention to this growing problem. People can be cruel. I like Adriene's comment about your post being equal parts compassion and reality check.

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  9. Anonymous4:54 AM

    I met my husband on the internet.
    I was blessed. I've heard so many nightmare stories.
    You're so right - we need to be very careful.
    Looking forward to more of your AtoZ

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