Wednesday, May 07, 2025

IWSG: If I could . . .

If I could sleep sitting up on the overnight train to Abu Simbel along the Nile River in Egypt, would I? Or climb beneath a pyramid, tons of stone above me? Or sail around the Horn, walk the same path with penguins skirting the sandy rocks, or stand in awe before Van Gogh's self portrait in Paris, tour groups passing at breakneck speed around me?

Yes, I have done these things and more. I have not been afraid. I felt privileged to see the world with my true love beside me. Would I choose such travel over that house in the suburbs? Yes. Journal in hand, I have written my way all through my life. 

You might ask what began your writing life. I can answer quite simply. In high school, so many decades ago, reading books and writing were an escape. I grew up in a family of alcoholics, frequent moves in and out of foster homes, and nightmarish incidents (the night one of my stepfathers took down the front door with an axe being one). I left at seventeen and never looked back. Worked my way through college. Became a writing teacher, and on retiring, Allen said, "It's time for you to write those stories, truly." For the last twenty years, I've written 11 books and hundreds of poems as an indie writer. The shoe fits.

Along the way, I've come to understand that every decade has its own challenge. Now 81, I realize this decade may well try to break me, but I refuse to bend. We learned this week my dear husband of 50 years has Parkinson's. I fear his loss more than anything else. My job now is to be strong, positive, and take care of him, as he has taken care of what matters most to me -- that inner life that sees and seeks beauty in all things. Even cooking.

So this post is my roundabout way of answering this month's question for the Insecure Writers' Study GroupSome common fears writers share are rejection, failure, success, and lack of talent or ability. What are your greatest fears as a writer? How do you manage them? 

My response and hope is that you follow YOUR dreams, honor your own creative spirit, and persevere! For each day is precious, as are you and your gifts.

Spring at Manito Park

Here's a little about the Insecure Writer's Support Group! The first Wednesday of each month is officially IWSG Day. Some 90 writers talk about their progress on their blogs, offer tips, or answer the question of the month. Everyone tries to visit about 10-20 other writers to show our support. And, each month, several writers volunteer to be co-hosts. This month, the generous co-hosts are:  Feather Stone, Janet Alcorn, Rebecca Douglass, Jemima Pett, and Pat Garcia!

Why not consider participating? For spring is truly on its way. May you celebrate each day and find many words for your stories. 


18 comments:

  1. I'm so sorry to hear about your husband. I have three friends who are experiencing the same issue. The decades chip away at us and either we wind up fine chiseled pieces of art or a pile of rubble. Like you, I'm working on the former result.
    Oh, do I ever miss those little exchanges! And I'm very tired of a machine telling me Have a nice day. Don't talk to me, you...you...robot.
    https://substack.com/@cleemckenzie/p-16283568

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    1. Thank you, Lee, for your kind comments. Also, I loved your IWSG post this month and that referral to Jacqui Murray's research strategies. Very helpful!

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  2. My heart goes out to you and your husband. At least you know how you need to help him. As a caregiver for most of my adult life, I recommend you leave a little sliver of time for taking care of yourself too. And I love your advice on this month's question.

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    1. Thank you, Natalie. So far, we are in good spirits and taking it one day at a time. Your IWSG post this month was especially helpful, and I recommended Aimee Phan's The Lost Queen to our local library, not only for YA readers. What an intriguing story that brings light to Vietnamese culture.

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  3. Sorry to hear about the Parkinson's. That can be pretty tough, but you can get through it with your husband. Age is just a number they say, but it's a number that I pay more attention to these days.

    Lee

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    1. Yes, and I'm thankful for reaching the number we have!

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  4. Sad news about your husband. But there is a silver lining there. As a rule, at our age, diseases progress slowly. So take it one day at a time, and 20 years later, you can re-evaluate.

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    1. Thank you, Olga. I'm hoping for that slow progress.

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  5. So sorry about your husband.
    Your life story itself is a book to be told. That is awesome you made it through all of that.

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    1. Thank you, Alex. Maybe life is about survival in general, through good times and those times we need our coping skills. Each day still has something to celebrate or bring a smile.

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  6. I am so sorry to hear of your husband's diagnosis. It's not a good one, but they do have the meds to slow the progress of the disease, to buy you enough time. Tomorrow is the 5th anniversary of my husband's death. Losing the love of your life is very nearly the worst that can happen, but I'm proof that it's survivable. So that's another fear you can look in the face and defy.

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    1. I agree with you, Rebecca. Your strength supports me and many others. Thank you.

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  7. I am so sorry to hear about your husband. I can tell by your post that you are filled with gratitude for your life together. Gratefulness is a powerful emotion and will help you through, whatever comes next.

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  8. Great post - and I'm so sorry to hear about your husband! I hope he is able to get some good treatment to slow the progress give you many more years together.

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    1. You note one of the biggest challenges for now, Janet. Finding out about treatment and possible medicines that could help seem far away as doctors and/or books offer few resources. So far. Perseverance furthers . . . I hope.

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  9. I so identify with feeling safe as you experienced one adventure after another. My husband provided the same sense security as we sailed from California to Mexico.
    After five spinal surgeries and arthritis in his fingers, we had to give up sailing.
    It's my turn to be strong, positive, and take care of him.
    Know you are loved and guided, even when you prepare dinner.

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    1. And so each year now brings new challenges. I hope we will continue to be nurtured and strengthened by those wonderful memories together. Thank you for your thoughtful comments. Your experience reminds me we are not alone.

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